A job? Seriously?

You’ve probably seen this video floating around on the internet lately, as social media tends to make these things spread.

I’m not going to get into the mobility category of this job if it were me looking at the requirements. It just simply wouldn’t fly with me if I read it in the job listings, I tend not to stand very often. Personal preference. 😉

The point is, it’s really quite a selfless job where others are put first. The self comes after, if at all.  I’m not a mother, and I’m pretty sure I never will be in this life time, but it seems to me that there are at least a few, if not many, who flat out decide they WANT to have this position in their lives. I suppose that’s not saying they want to deal with everything involved in being a mother. I can’t see my own mother saying “Ok so, lets have a child with Spina Bifida! I want a child who can’t walk and who needs to go see all these professionals in London at least once or twice per year and deal with a plethora of oddities in the human condition created by Spina Bifida.” And not simply because I don’t think of her using the words “plethora of oddities” which came to my mind out of the blue to succinctly describe conditions created by my… condition. The hours upon hours spent in waiting rooms at the Children’s clinic, and many more hours spent in hospital x ray department waiting rooms can’t have been that hopping of a party. I mean, there were a lot of people as I recall but the booze wasn’t flowing and the Fermented Oranges weren’t even a thought back in those days as far as I am aware. New Kids on the Block might have been around and perhaps popular, but not in those waiting rooms. Tangent end: But that wasn’t my point.

There are plenty of unpleasant things involved with being a mother which the video above outlines quite well. You’re dealing with young people through sickness and health, through coping with varying relationships, friendships, struggles and triumphs, and perhaps other dilemmas, conundrums and interesting situations. You’re dealing with seeing your children’s triumphs and misfortunes on the journey toward reaching and perhaps surpassing their dreams using these very triumphs and misfortunes to their advantage. In fact, as the video shows we expect something for ourselves when we think of jobs or employment.  We have this idea that we are entitled to things when we are employed.  It seems that our ego awakens and tells us we deserve breaks, we deserve time off, we deserve this or that.  Funny how all that changes when we look at the title of the job in this video!  People take so much for granted sometimes. I guess mostly it is if you take it for granted that any people or things around you are yours to use as you please without any thought or consideration for how it would affect anything but yourself.

If you’re dealing with too much in self discovery and self-improvement it can be too much to even consider having or raising a child. If you’re too self-focused it might be challenging to have one or more young ones around you who are innocent and open to so many different influences in the world and need strong and positive guidance to ensure they start off on the right path to greatness. I can only be thankful that my own mother never seemed to run into that. She was always there, like the job description in the video requests. She was, and still is always there to the best of her ability. Not only that, but with my dad’s regular traveling, even from a distance I can receive their love and support… and some home cooked food or other goodies from time to time. Things may change, but they stay the same too.

Making a difference: Now.

I came across the following video via up-worthy which has a lot of different items shared on facebook these days. I thought it was worth referring to in a post when I watched it a couple of different times because it has a great message to it and also feels to me like it’s rather inspirational.

I had known Patrick Stewart simply as a man who acted in Star Trek. I knew nothing of who he was or where he came from and what his past involved. I would never have guessed that he suffered anything related to domestic violence or otherwise. I don’t think about that with regard to actors or any celebrity generally. I see them in their roles, and I just never know the real person behind the role. Aside from a couple different celebrities, I just have no knowledge of the person that exists which creates the role in a movie or television show, or for that matter in a music video and accompanying song(s).

I never gave a thought to the history of Stewart’s family history, whether his father or mother had any involvement in war times or anything of that nature. I never gave a thought to the matter. But he demonstrates very well how his past has inspired his passions in the present moment. He very clearly shows how living as a child through domestic violence between his mother and father inspired his passion to help women living in or growing past domestic violence situations, to help those with PTSD and in particular veterans of the military/army who have had to deal with a lot of psychological trauma in their careers.

I’ve said before in this blog how I hope to be able to inspire or help others. I would love to be able to have something I’ve done, said, or written be cause for inspiration or assistance to someone in need of a little guidance in their life or a boost in their self-esteem. I would absolutely love to have a role in reducing suffering for a wide variety of people such as Stewart has been doing with his life outside his acting career. It would be absolutely awesome to be able to have a positive effect on this world through having a positive effect, as described here, on individual people in this world. I hope to positively impact humanity, one person at a time, to create a better society and a better world in some way shape or form. Perhaps I need to ponder further how I can have this effect based on my past and who I am as a person.

I know my life as a “disabled” person and the experiences I have had as a result of this situation can be possible means for others to be inspired. The experiences certainly have had a variance on the positivity spectrum. I know that there are various things such as being an oldest son, a male, growing up in a small town atmosphere with some fairly frequent visits to a city atmosphere such that I was never fully isolated in the small town. I’m sure being the child in a family with a stay at home or part time working mother throughout my life at home would have an impact on who I’ve become as well as having a father who travels frequently vs. a father who either stays at home or works a 9-5 job in the same town/city so he’s home regularly for family to eat together might also have effects. I believe each and every experience can influence who or what an individual becomes. I believe that Patrick Stewart exemplifies this and shows his strong sense of compassion for fighting for things he was unable to fight for during his childhood for obvious reasons. In my journey to determining where I’m going in life, I feel that this video of him demonstrates clearly how he is a man of strength to aspire to become similar, if not identical to in passion for life and for making a difference in the lives of others.

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Misuse of Words?

I’m pondering the heading of an article I came across recently.  It reads as though a cruise port had disabled any access to its use.  This is not the intention, as the article content is about access for people with different abilities.  But I found the way language like this can be used without a thought for alternative meanings is really intriguing.  Thoughts?

Identity: All in Perception?

I was thinking about my first post, and how I could argue that I’m the lowest of the low in the human race and turn around using the same categorizations that I fit and describe myself as a very privileged individual.  Thanks to those people in my life who I’ve learned this skill from over the years!  It’s helpful to be able to argue one thing and turn around and argue it the other way a split second later.

Another influence to this post is a video of Bill Maher and some others, including Slash. It could be argued that the discussion itself merits it to be valuable. It could also be argued that because the discussion lacks a vital half of the population to partake in the discussion, the discussion is unfair without all voices present.

The video could also be argued as purely humorous as well. Nevertheless, it felt fitting for the post as it shows Slash (who I’ve only known as a guitarist more or less) in a setting which doesn’t have him performing musically, but instead focuses on identity and perceptions even if only a narrow perception. Getting back to me though…

I’m a male, which you could argue that is notorious for forms of abuse to their partners and/or children.  They get in bar fights with their drunken buddies and cause damage to the pub and to each other.  The male came over from Europe and started out a search for new areas to colonize where they discovered North America.  At least it’s males who are noted to be explorers from what I hear and read.  It’s them who, with their (perhaps Western values?) values of greed and gluttony that decided land could and should be owned .  They worked out a way to give themselves more power over land that was previously inhabited by people with a completely different set of values and beliefs which (by my understanding) was more thankful for what was given to them rather than desiring to take advantage of everything they could find.

I’m also a white male, known to be able to have all the success and privilege desired in our
Western society.  I’m also a person with a physical disability, one who has had to attend days of various medical appointments, seating appointments, be assisted by Personal Support Workers for personal tasks that others can do by themselves and therefore without opinions of others coming into the mix about what is best and what is not. There’s a plethora of things that go along with having a physical disability that are less than entertaining and pleasurable.

But then I start to also see that there are situations where my teacher has recommended I go from point A to point B first so I can leave the classroom before the throngs of classmates block my path.  I see the bus driver telling people to wait while they lower the bus and fold out the ramp for me to enter first.  I see the throngs of people outside the bus at busy stops when I’m simply trying to exit the bus.  I see all these people and I start to feel like I must be worthy of being video recorded by someone in the crowd that might be in the paparazzi.  I want to put my hand over a camera so it can’t grab a picture of me because I want my privacy.  I feel like I should pull my jacket or shirt up over my head to hide my identity from the plethora of people who I forget are simply waiting to board the bus to get wherever they are destined to go on the given day.  Little do I recall that the reason that these people are really waiting is much more of a give away of who I am than a real celebrity.  Oh right, and I should mention that I’m referring to this celebrity comparison to suggest that physical disability can be looked at in a privileged way, though you could take “celebrity” and argue the pros and cons of it to make it out as good or bad too.  But back on topic: Who can hide a wheelchair with a jacket?  I haven’t tried, but I don’t think I can that well.  I might require two or three to cover different sections if I want it all hidden.  One of those rain ponchos would be a better bet, but they often get caught in my wheels or under my wheels if I’m not watchful of where it’s sitting.

Long story short, who I am is all in perspective.  What I do with who I am is my choice, and can only be influenced by me, myself and I.  I know that’s a lot of people, but it is what it is.  I can take suggestions from others—I can hear out the opinions of others.  But if I think about the celebrity concept—if I drowned myself in the opinions of others, well I might as well be dead because some opinions of celebrities out there are pretty varied or just plain negative.  I feel we forget that they’re human, even if what the media tells us about them suggests that they’re complete and utter psychos.  I don’t want to live the life where I’m so obsessed with what everybody thinks.  I’d rather do my own thing, and influence people to think for themselves; to be who they want to be.  I mean, my given name happens to be Nicholas, and a quick google search for “name meaning Nicholas” shows that the name which comes from the words “nike” meaning “victory” and “laos” meaning people ultimately means “victory of the people.”

It might not have been as out of the blue as me picking a middle name for my sister when I was around 4 years old, but I’m willing to guess that my parents probably didn’t scour the meanings of various names to figure out what meaning they wanted to go along with me.  They might have; I’ve never asked.  But I feel it’s me taking what was given to me and choosing to make something of it. That aside, I’ve known for years that I’ve wanted to help people, regardless of my name or whatever labels I hold.

I struggle with this idea that you have to have something to say you’re something.  I guess because here I’ve argued you can have something, be something or be nothing with that something with just the amount of time it takes to give the explanation of it being something or nothing.  Philosophical isn’t it?  Not necessarily, it’s just explaining away the realm of existence (or something like that.)

I’ve been told I write well, and that I express opinions well through writing.  You can be the judge of that as you follow this blog.  I’m not going to say.  I just know that writing out thoughts and ideas is positive in my eyes.  I can express views on the world and everything around me that sparks an idea for writing.  Whether I’m the first trillionaire on wheels, or one of potentially many that are below the poverty line who are on wheels, as long as I do something I enjoy I might as well keep going.  At least I have something, my own self fashioned identity through my own perspective.